|Posted on October 30, 2012 at 10:58 PM|
Every parent wonders when they are going to be able to sleep again. It comes up on message boards everywhere: When will I sleep again? How do I train my baby to sleep? Can’t I just let them cry it out (CIO)?
If you know me, you probably already what my answer is…your baby was designed a certain way. Their cry is a signal that something is wrong and your attention is required to attend to your child and build that confidence between you and them. Your babies are not supposed to sleep through the night – HERE is my favorite blog post on that topic.
Will you be tired? YES. Will you need to nap? YES. Does it make sense to have a routine in some families? YES. Each family needs to make the choice that is right for them.
Here are some sage words from Dr. Sears:
I am not going to write anymore about sleep training today because you will see that there is already a lot of information out there from Dr. Sears and from some other mom-bloggers (see Link List below).
So if you are not going to subscribe to any of the sleep training methods, what can you do to help your child establish a healthy nighttime pattern? I offer these ideas not because these are the methods to sleep train your child. I offer them to get you thinking about the long term.
Eventually, your child will outgrow the developmental need to wake at night. You need to decide if it will be nice to already have a system in place to encourage them to get to bed easily, and stay in and fall asleep once they are in bed.
Set a bedtime that works for your family. Here are the things to consider – what time does your little one start to act sleepy – rubbing their eyes, yawning, being silly, running around so that they stay awake…and if there is more than one child in your family, is there a collective bedtime or does everyone tire in shifts? How much sleep do parents need? What time does your family need to get going in the morning? Once you know those numbers, start working backwards to figure out when you start to your bedtime routine.
Make a routine that works for your family. Include as many or as few of these components as works for you. I found that when Bruss was traveling, a long, drawn out bedtime routine was a nice way to end the day by myself. Now that we are all home together, we run around until we are exhausted and the parents fall into bed at night – the least tired one takes the shift with the Night Owl.
My last tip (or trick - depends how you look at it) is to mist each of the sleepers with some Lotus Wei "Inner Peace" and "Quiet Mind" flower essences. You can read more about those products HERE. I wish you all a good night and sweet dreams!
What do you and your family like to do at bedtime?
Other GREAT blog posts in regards sleep training
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