|Posted on April 1, 2014 at 9:19 AM|
Carnival of Natural Mothering
April 2014: What You Wish You Knew
Remember when you got your first positive pregnancy test? What do you wish that woman knew? Write a letter of love and encouragement to that awesome mama just starting her journey.
Dear New Mama:
Yes, you. I skipped over the “mother-to-be”. You are already growing life, and you are already aware of that life and protective of that life…as I see it, there is no “to-be” in mothering. It is a state of being since you got your BFP. Your mother’s instinct is no joke: trust it always, even in the face of a “lack of evidence” or just “having a feeling”. No mother has ever regretted doing the best for her child from a place of love and concern…the only regret is not listening to that voice. Your mothering instinct will not fail you in pregnancy or parenting.
At times, pregnancy may feel equally miraculous and uncomfortable. First trimester: the unquenchable excitement of being pregnant (it happened!!)…and nausea. Second trimester: interesting sounds and smells, and maternity clothing as your waistline grows. Third trimester: the disappearance of your feet beneath your belly, maybe nausea (again!), and the OMGosh moment: this baby has to come out of me – through *there*!
Through it all, the miracle and awe of growing another human being is constant. There are two hearts beating, two minds working, two souls living in one body. The first time you feel your Sweet Pea stir inside of you…their hiccups, the reaction to voices and touch…and those sensations continue. I believe they exist as a reminder that the sacred and divine is happening right now.
You want to do the best for your baby. You want to have a perfect pregnancy that leads into your perfect birth story. While those are worthy ideals, you can only control finite amounts of conception through the Birth-Day, and at some point you must surrender the rest of it to the universe.
I encourage you to learn as much as you can about birth, breastfeeding and parenting!
You are never alone on this journey. Birth and parenting have happened for eons. There is so much wisdom available to you, and so many people to walk and learn with as a new parent. Read, connect, be willing to say hello to the person sitting next to you in your childbirth or breastfeeding group. Once your Sweet Pea is earthside, get out and about. Say hello at the breastfeeding or postpartum support group, story time or playgroup. A simple hello can lead to a beautiful friendship for you and your Sweet Pea.
Since this is a birth blog, here are some more details about preparing for the Birth-Day…
Thank you for taking the time to read this letter. You are already an amazing parent – you have chosen to carry this life, and by doing that, you have undertaken the essence of mothering: living outside of yourself and considering the needs of another. Best wishes to you as you continue to grow in love.
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