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Breastfeeding+AP = Transformation Central
Posted on July 31, 2014 at 9:36 AM |
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Our desire and preparation for a natural birth confirmed the
decision to breastfeed our Sweet Pea. In
turn, breastfeeding opened the door to attachment parenting, which has
transformed me as a person. Before we had children, I was one of those people who
believed in child-free spaces. I liked living for me, and being in the
spotlight. There was not a thought for
what I would do with children because I just did not think that was going to be
part of my story. When Puma was still a newborn, a friend asked me, “What have
you learned since becoming a parent?” My
answer: “How selfish* I used to be.” The kind of selfish that I discovered in myself was the “me,
me, me, all about me” variety. Life
before Sweet Peas entailed getting myself to work, going to yoga classes,
traveling on a whim as well as planned vacations, cooking delicious food that
took hours to prepare for Coach Bruss and I, or the two of us would go out to
dinner wherever and whenever we wanted.
It was a good life. We got married, we wanted children, and we weren’t sure if
we would be having biological children or if we would be adopting. As it turned out, we were able to conceive a
child and carry her to term with my well-controlled thyroid condition. We had a suspicion that our lives were going
to change. As new parents, we could not even begin to imagine the changes a
child would bring to our relationship, or what “family” meant. My transformation began while we labored with her. Then, in the wee small hours of the morning on
January 25, 2005, Puma entered our
world, wide-eyed and observant. The
first time I put her to my breast and looked into her eyes, I fell in love in
such a way that I could not have even imagined.
For the rest of my life, I will strive to do my best for this child, and
for every child that joined our family after her. Attachment Parenting (“AP”) is a philosophy of child
rearing that respects children as whole, unique, individual human beings. Children are treated with love and respect,
as whole people traveling in little bodies.
I believe that it is our role as parents is to honor the child-person
first and foremost; and parent with the long-term goal of growing a child in
love who can operate as a whole, unbroken and joyful adult. By starting off as a breastfeeding MotherBaby, I learned our
children’s cues and had a better insight into their emotional states. That relationship has evolved as they weaned,
and now there is some mother’s intuition as well as observation that comes into
play, and it helps me be a better parent.
I am more confident as a parent because I “know” our children. When our children need guidance and boundaries, as all
children do, we do our best to guide them with love and respect. There are days when we are all tired – we
make an effort to breathe. That bond
forged through breastfeeding inspires me to try harder to be a good mother for
them. I work harder to be a better person because I want to earn
their respect. I work harder to breathe
and stay calm because they do not deserve the brunt of my temper. I work harder to pray, lead a life of
spirituality, and respect for a Divine Creator, because I want to leave them a
legacy of peace in their hearts. I do my
best to be a good steward in the world around us, because God-willing, they are
going to walk this earth long after I am gone – I want it to be a good one. When I do make a mistake, I ask for their forgiveness. Just because they are small in stature does
not mean they are not deserving of an apology, or that they feel things at a
diminished level. And so the circle of
love continues, with all parties aware that we are all human, and that trust
and respect are the highest priority in our relationship. There is a memory that stands out in my mind from a fall
evening in 2011, right after Otter was born.
Coach Bruss was sitting on the couch in our family room, one of the Sweet
Peas lying on his lap. Two of the Sweet
Peas were crashed out with pillows and blankets on the floor. I was sitting in our recliner with Otter,
having just nursed her to sleep. As we
looked at each other and our little brood, we just smiled, our hearts full and
bursting with joy. We could not have
imagined that our lives would be blessed with four children, all unique, all
independent; and here we were, a family of six. Since that day, we continue to grow in love and
experience. Being an AP parent is a
commitment and it takes time to guide a child vs. discipline a child. On hectic days, it would be "easier" to play the old tape of yelling and spanking.
However, thanks to the bond forged by breastfeeding, I cannot ever be
okay with hurting our children physically or emotionally, and for that, I am
eternally grateful. Love and respect all the way. How has breastfeeding affected you as a person? Please leave a comment – it will be moderated and posted.
The material included on this site is for informational purposes only. It is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. The reader should always consult her or his healthcare provider to determine the appropriateness of the information for their own situation. Krystyna and Bruss Bowman and Bowman House, LLC accept no liability for the content of this site, or for the consequences of any actions taken on the basis of the information provided. This blog contains information about our classes available in Chandler, AZ and Payson, AZ and is not the official website of The Bradley Method®. The views contained on this blog do not necessarily reflect those of The Bradley Method® or the American Academy of Husband-Coached Childbirth®. Here are more posts by the Breastfeeding Cafe Carnival participants! Check back because more will be added throughout the day.
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