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Dreams of the Sandman
Posted on November 13, 2012 at 11:00 AM |
Ahh – today’s blog post is inspired by the class on
postpartum we just taught and two of our sweet students who are going through
some sleepless nights with their daughters.
Warm thoughts and wishes for the sandman are being sent for them. HERE, and the babies that inspired this post are
still under nine months of age.
As part of that MotherBaby dynamic, I believe babies cry because they want
comfort - not to manipulate. Adults in relationships like to sleep next to
their partners. It is incredible to me
that children and babies are expected to be okay sleeping alone. They are less
emotionally mature and we ask them to do things that their adult parents (assuming they all live together), supposedly fully
functioning and emotionally intact, do not do.
I want to remind sleepless parents and readers of how amazing their infant
child is. When they are first born,
literally EVERYTHING is new.
So this little person, who has so much change thrown at them in the split
second that they are born, is in the process of learning about the world around
them. They crave the warmth of their
mother’s body, or another comforting body, since they cannot regulate their
body temperature on their own yet. They
are soothed by the rhythm of a beating heart, a sound that was a permanent part
of their environment since the day they could hear in utero.
A baby who is crying is a baby who has a need that has not been met. We are all familiar with the common ones: Are
they wet? Hungry? Tired?
Then there are the reasons that we seem to have forgotten about as a culture…could
they be lonely? Scared? Seeking reassurance? Craving safety in a parent’s arms?
Growing? Teething?
These are no less important than the common reasons. It is easy to be seduced by all the toys,
sleep aids and gadgets that promise a child will sleep through the night. News flash:
babies are wired to cry when they need help…HERE are some great links to
reasons from a developmental standpoint as to why babies *should not* sleep
through the night.
So just how long does it take that little bundle of newness to be
independent? I am sure we will all have
a different answer. And along the path
to independence, there is the discomfort of teething, growth spurts, psychological
expansion from the mama as the center of the universe, to the rest of the
family and then the realization that the world really is a very BIG place. It works for some families to co-sleep, and for other families it is better to have the baby/child sleep in their crib/bed. Or, you can do a little of both, which happens to be our choice. Or...the list could go on and on. There are always lots of options for a family to explore as they find the right path for them. Here are my beliefs:
I implore you to examine your paradigm.
I suggest that our task as a parent is not to get our child to sleep
through the night from the earliest moment possible. Our task, our gift,
is to respond to a child’s needs as they need to be met so that we create
confident, loving and independent adults who are ready to meet the challenges
they face in the world and leave their world a better place. TO BE VERY CLEAR: I am not saying that all children who CIO cannot grow to be
wonderful people. To be wonderful is a
choice that we can all make. Andeach family has to choose what is RIGHT FOR THEM.
What I am suggesting is that we examine our parenting choices and make the best
choice putting our child’s developmental needs first. You will sleep again. This season shall pass and you will wonder
where your baby went, and what that rambunctious
(toddler)(child)(adolescent)(adult) did with your sweet baby. Dare I ask… How did you make it through sleepless nights with your
baby? Disclaimer:
The material included on this site is for informational purposes only. It is not intended nor implied to be a
substitute for professional medical advice. The reader should always consult
her or his healthcare provider to determine the appropriateness of the
information for their own situation.
Krystyna and Bruss Bowman and Bowman House, LLC accept no liability for
the content of this site, or for the consequences of any actions taken on the
basis of the information provided. This blog contains information about our classes available in
Chandler, AZ and Payson, AZ and is not the official website of The Bradley
Method®. The views contained on this blog do not
necessarily reflect those of The Bradley Method® or the American Academy of
Husband-Coached Childbirth®.
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Erin Rudd
4:28 PM on November 13, 2012
After seeking advice from many mothers and rattling my brain for WHY my baby wakes up, I have decided to embrace the extra time with my little one. CIO is not a fit for my family, nor is co-sleeping. Therefore I nurse and cuddle every time she wakes. We are back in bed, in no time. She is starting to sleep longer stretches after about 6 weeks of waking up. This is what is working for us today.... I am ready to adjust as she needs. The less I fight it the easier it is. I think if I provide a calm environment and good routine, she will soon enough follow. I appreciate the advise of find what works best for the family!

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Krystyna
7:47 PM on November 13, 2012
Erin Rudd says...
After seeking advice from many mothers and rattling my brain for WHY my baby wakes up, I have decided to embrace the extra time with my little one. CIO is not a fit for my family, nor is co-sleeping. Therefore I nurse and cuddle every time she wakes. We are back in bed, in no time. She is starting to sleep longer stretches after about 6 weeks of waking up. This is what is working for us today.... I am ready to adjust as she needs. The less I fight it the easier it is. I think if I provide a calm environment and good routine, she will soon enough follow. I appreciate the advise of find what works best for the family!
Erin, well said!! I wish there was a "Like" button


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